Can I even focus right now, or write a blog, or send a newsletter, or post on social media?
The answer is no. I can't ignore what's happening.
But I also can't take this space to give you any great insight on race relations, or make promises about how much better I’ll do or tell you I'm with you. Words only go so far.
What I will do is talk about what I know, and that is MINDSET.
Specifically, I want to talk about our collective thoughts in this situation; this entire situation - in our world, in our countries, in our communities.
As human beings, when we feel stress, we often go outside ourselves. It’s our brain's effort to keep us safe. We want to make sense of it all. So, we consume, we connect with others, we seek out information. We do everything in our power to analyze the threat. We look for answers that may not ever be found.
And that can be useful... to an extent. But by doing that we can also miss the enormous opportunity to go inwards; to dig deeper into our thoughts, our beliefs, and ourselves.
There are external things to do for sure:
But only looking outside yourself for answers won't lead to lasting change.
I remind myself that scrolling social media and reading the news is easy. Reposting a meme takes 2 seconds. Being outraged is easy. Any fool can do that.
The internal work is the thing most people won’t do. It’s much harder to put your phone down and turn the mirror on yourself.
Cultivate love in your heart. Clean out the mental clutter. Look your weaknesses in the eye. Meditate. Pray. Journal. Workout. Do the work. Build up resilience. Critically analyze your thoughts and actions so you can give more to others in your community...
Recognize the ways you’ve failed. Appreciate the ways you've been brave.
Simply being the best version of ourselves is the best thing for the world, but it takes intentional work. I am not the first to say this; far braver people have urged us to do the same. For example:
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” - Gandhi
So, I’m starting there; I'm starting with me.
This is what I’m journaling on: What do I want to see more of in the world? What thoughts/actions can get me MORE of that thing?
Don't get me wrong, change won't come from meditating. Actions are critical. But I believe when you do the internal work, your external reality shifts in line with the change you want to see. In that way, our stress, anxiety, worry, overwhelm or ______ gets channeled into something we truly believe in.
We can’t control everything, but we can control ourselves. I believe that from that awareness, our actions will reflect the change we want to see in the world.